Anger is a very human response in grief – and a common one. Not everyone will experience it, but for many people it can show up directed at professionals, at circumstances, at themselves, or at the world for feeling so unfair. It can be confusing or uncomfortable, especially if anger isn’t an emotion you’re used to expressing.

Often, anger sits on top of sadness – because sadness can feel more vulnerable and harder to sit with. We don’t need to push anger away, but it can help to find safe ways to express it: talking, writing, crying, or moving your body. Every feeling in grief needs space – even anger. Try noticing it without judgement, and remember to breathe through it.

12 Days of Grief: Understanding Anger

In this video, Erin talks about why anger can arise in grief, and how to allow it space without letting it overwhelm you.

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