Understanding Grief Coping Mechanisms
When someone we love dies, our mind looks for ways to cope. Sometimes that shows up in ways that feel supportive – talking with others, resting, journaling. And sometimes it shows up as distraction, overworking, drinking more, or eating less. Any behaviour that helps you survive the moment can become a coping mechanism in grief.
If you recognise things you’re doing that don’t support you in the long term, try not to blame yourself. You’re responding to something heartbreaking. Over time, you might gently introduce kinder ways of coping – connection, movement, therapy, or moments of rest. Coping isn’t about being strong. It’s about finding what helps you get through today.
12 Days of Grief: Understanding Comping Mechanisms
In this video, Erin explores how coping strategies form in grief, why some are protective in the short term, and how to move towards gentler support when you’re ready.
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FREE: Grief Worksheet – Coping Tools
In grief, we reach for anything that helps us get through the day. Some coping tools support us, others drain us – noticing the difference is the first step to caring for yourself.
This worksheet helps you identify your current coping tools, recognise what supports you during overwhelming moments, and note healthier strategies to build while acknowledging unhelpful habits.
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