Understanding Guilt in Grief
Many people experience guilt after someone dies – thoughts like “I should have…” or “If only I’d…” can feel overwhelming. These thoughts often come from loving someone deeply, not from having done something wrong.
Try reminding yourself: “I did the best I could with what I knew at the time.” Because you truly did. Grief can make us replay and rewrite the past through a lens of pain. Be gentle with yourself – you are human, and this is a normal part of the grieving process.
12 Days of Grief: Understanding Guilt
In this video, Erin explores why guilt often arises in grief, how it reflects love, and ways to be gentle with yourself as you navigate these feelings.
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FREE: Guilt in Grief Worksheet
Guilt in grief often shows up as “what ifs” and “if onlys.” These thoughts are common, but they rarely reflect the full truth. Compassion softens what guilt distorts.
This gentle worksheet that helps you explore guilt and regret in grief, offering examples and space to reframe “what if” thoughts with more compassion and perspective.
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