Grief can feel confusing and unpredictable for children of all ages, and supporting them while you are grieving yourself can make it even more challenging.
To help, we’ve created two PDF guides: one for parents and carers, and another for teachers, offering practical advice and strategies to support children through loss.
In addition, we’ve developed worksheet bundles tailored to different age groups to help children process their emotions in a guided and supportive way:
📢 Our new children + grief course is coming soon. Leave your email and we’ll let you know when it launches.
This work has been made possible thanks to the incredible support of Cabaret vs Cancer. We’re so grateful for their generosity and belief in supporting grieving children and families.

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Children + Grief – An Overview
| Age Group | How They Understand Death | Common Reactions | How to Help |
| 🧸 Early Childhood (Ages 3–6) “Concrete Thinkers” | May see death as reversible or temporary (“like sleep”). Magical thinking — may believe they caused the death. | Clinginess, regression, repetitive questions, fear of separation. | Use simple, honest language; reassure safety; express feelings through play, stories, and drawing. |
| 🧩 Middle Childhood (Ages 7–10) “Curious Realists” | Begin to understand death is permanent and universal. May compare their grief to others. | Worry about others dying, guilt, sadness, withdrawal, questions about fairness. | Encourage questions; teach feeling words; provide routines; help identify coping strategies. |
| 🧠 Preteens + Early Teens (Ages 11–13) “Feeling It Deeply” | Understand death’s finality and may question its meaning or fairness. | Anger, guilt, confusion, withdrawal, supporting others. | Offer honest conversation, creative outlets, and reassurance that mixed feelings are normal. |
| 💫 Teens (Ages 14–18) “Meaning-Makers” | Think abstractly about life, justice, and purpose; grief may connect to identity. | May hide feelings, use humour or independence, or question beliefs. | Respect independence; encourage reflection; offer choice-based coping tools and peer support. |
🧸 Early Childhood (Ages 3–6)
“Concrete Thinkers”
Help children recognise feelings, build safety, and express memories non-verbally.
Tips: Use crayons, stickers, or storytime. Focus on reassurance and naming emotions.

Our worksheets for early childhood…
- My Feelings House – Children draw different feelings in “rooms” (safe people, calm activities, ways to express).
- When I’m Feeling Sad – A simple, guided page where children draw or choose things and people that help when they feel sad – like a hug, a toy, or time with someone they trust.
- Things That Make Me Feel Safe – Identifies comforting people, routines, and spaces that help the child feel secure.
- Prompted drawing – Provides a space to express feelings, recall memories and process emotions.
🧩 Middle Childhood (Ages 7–10)
“Curious Realists”
Builds vocabulary for emotions and coping skills while fostering memories and reassurance.
Tips: Allow discussion but don’t push; use drawing and short writing prompts.

Our worksheets for middle childhood…
- My Grief Jar – Teaches that grief doesn’t shrink – life grows around it.
- My Feelings Journal – Simple daily reflections to build emotional awareness.
- Helping Myself When I Miss Someone – Encourages problem-solving and self-soothing techniques.
- Remembering + Growing – Explores changes after loss and maintaining connection through memory.
- Prompted drawing – Provides a space to express feelings, recall memories and process emotions.
- Notes pages to express whatever they’re feeling at the time.
🧠 Preteens + Early Teens (Ages 11–13)
“Feeling It Deeply”
Encourage reflection, emotional literacy, and building identity through loss.
Tips: Offer creative choice – writing, art, or discussion; validate anger, confusion, and guilt as normal.

Our worksheets for pre-teens and early teens…
- The Box + the Ball – Visualises how grief changes impact over time.
- The Jar of Grief + Growth – Encourages balancing loss with ongoing life.
- 5-Minute Check-In – Quick, practical self-reflection for emotional regulation.
- Remembering + Growing – Combines identity and meaning-making.
- Gift of Gratitude – Balances grief with moments of appreciation or comfort.
- Prompted drawing – Provides a space to express feelings, recall memories and process emotions.
- Notes pages to express whatever they’re feeling at the time.
🌱 Ages 14–18: Teens
“Meaning-Makers”
Help teens explore identity, purpose, and meaning after loss through journaling and creativity.
Tips: Allow autonomy; encourage self-direction. Discuss ideas if invited.

Our worksheets for teens…
- A Letter I Need to Write – Encourages connection and closure by expressing unspoken thoughts.
- Exploring Who I Am After Loss – Reflects on how grief changes identity and what remains true.
- Remembering + Growing – Helps teens recognise their personal coping style and set emotional boundaries.
- Memories to Keep – A creative space to celebrate memories and shared moments.
- The Jar of Grief + Growth – Encourages balancing loss with ongoing life.
- 5-Minute Check-In – Builds self-awareness and emotional tracking.
- Gift of Gratitude – Promotes mindful reflection and balance between grief and gratitude.
- Prompted drawing – Provides a space to express feelings, recall memories and process emotions.
- Notes pages to express whatever they’re feeling at the time.
🌍 More Support Beyond Our Resources
You don’t have to do this alone. Alongside our guides and worksheets, there are many trusted charities and organisations offering free advice, helplines, and activities to support grieving children, teens, and families.
These sites provide everything from one-to-one listening services to creative projects, videos, and peer stories – helpful for both home and school settings.

Child Bereavement UK
Supports families and educates professionals when a child grieves or when a child dies.
☎️ 0800 02 888 40
Winston’s Wish
Offers support for children and young people up to 25 after the death of someone important.
☎️ 08088 020 021
Cruse Bereavement Support
Provides free care and bereavement counselling for all ages across the UK.
☎️ 0808 808 1677
Hope Again (by Cruse)
Online community offering advice, forums, and resources for young people experiencing grief.
Samaritans (24/7)
A confidential listening service for anyone in emotional distress, struggling to cope, or at risk of suicide.
☎️ 116 123
Grief Encounter
Specialist support for children and young people who have lost someone close.
☎️ 0808 802 0111
Marie Curie Bereavement Support
Provides free support and counselling for anyone affected by terminal illness or bereavement.
☎️ 0800 090 2309
National Bereavement Partnership
Emotional support helpline for anyone affected by bereavement or trauma.
☎️ 0800 448 0800








