Grief@Work Guides
Helping organisations support grief with confidence, compassion and practical guidance.
Practical answers to workplace grief questions
Workplace grief can feel difficult to navigate, especially for managers, HR teams, and colleagues who want to do the right thing but are unsure what that looks like in practice.
This hub brings together clear, accessible guidance on the most common questions about bereavement at work – from supporting grieving employees to understanding workplace rights and conversations.
Each guide is designed to help you respond with confidence, compassion, and clarity.
Start here: common workplace grief topics
Bereavement leave in the UK
Understanding bereavement leave can be confusing for both employers and employees.
In the UK, there is no universal entitlement to paid bereavement leave (except in specific circumstances such as parental bereavement). Most workplace policies vary depending on the organisation.
At a practical level, many employees need:
- flexibility when returning to work
- time to process the immediate shock of loss
- time for practical arrangements
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👉 Bereavement Leave – An Employee’s Guide
👉 Bereavement Leave – An Employer’s Guide
👉 Do you Get Paid Bereavement Leave? (+ other answers to your questions)
👉 Overview of Bereavement Leave: Explaining its Importance and Purpose
👉 How to Request Bereavement Leave: A Step-by-Step Guide
Communicating with grieving colleagues
Knowing what to say – and what not to say – is one of the biggest challenges in workplace grief.
Grief can affect communication in different ways, including:
- difficulty finding words
- emotional sensitivity
- withdrawal from conversations
- changes in confidence or expression
- consistent over time
Supportive communication is usually:
- simple
- gentle
- non-intrusive
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💬 “How do I support someone at work who’s grieving — especially if they’re not ready to talk?”
This is one of the most common questions we hear.
🎥 In this video, Erin shares reflections from over 15 years supporting bereaved individuals – and what she’s learned from working with organisations who want to do better.
read more on communication
👉 Words of Comfort: Writing a Sympathy Card to a Grieving Colleague
👉 Conversations with grieving colleagues
👉 Supporting grieving colleagues
Returning to work after bereavement
Returning to work is not a single moment – it is a process.
Employees may experience:
- fluctuating concentration
- emotional fatigue
- grief triggers in the workplace
- pressure to “be back to normal”
A supportive return-to-work approach often includes:
- phased return options where possible
- flexible workload adjustments
- check-ins rather than assumptions
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👉 Returning to Work After Bereavement: Be Gentle With Yourself
Workplace rights and legal considerations
Those who lose a child under the age of 18 or who suffer a stillbirth (after 24 weeks’ pregnancy) are entitled to two weeks of paid leave under ‘Jack’s Law’ in England, Scotland, and Wales, with different regulations in place for Northern Ireland.
When an employee experiences the loss of a dependent, such as a child or parent, they are entitled to take compassionate leave. While there is no set duration for this leave and it does not have to be paid, it’s important for employers to understand and support their employees during this difficult time.
According to the Employment Rights Act 1996, employees typically have the right to reasonable unpaid time off for unforeseen matters or emergencies involving a dependent or immediate family, which includes arranging or attending a funeral.
A ‘dependent’ as defined by law encompasses a spouse, civil partner, child, parent, cohabitant (except for employees, tenants, or lodgers), or someone relying on the employee for care arrangements. This may also extend to individuals typically dependent on the employee for care or emergency assistance, like an elderly neighbour.
In cases where the deceased is not a dependent or immediate family member, specific rights may not apply. Whether leave is granted in such situations is at the discretion of the employer.
It’s crucial to be mindful of behaviours that may be perceived as bullying or harassment, such as pressuring employees to return to work prematurely after the loss of a loved one. Such actions can have a detrimental effect on employee morale and well-being.
Offering flexible working arrangements can be beneficial for employees coping with loss, allowing them to balance their work responsibilities with personal needs. Employers should be open to considering and accommodating flexible working requests within the bounds of organisational policies and statutory rights.
Employers must ensure that individuals with ‘protected characteristics’ are not subjected to unfair treatment or discrimination. These protected characteristics include age, gender reassignment, sex, marriage or civil partnership status, race, religion or belief, sexual orientation, and disability
Examples of discriminatory actions include:
- Refusing an employee’s request to participate in recognised cultural or religious customs related to bereavement.
- Failing to consider reasonable adjustments if an employee’s grief is impacting their mental health.
- Allowing time off only for employees who were married to or in a civil partnership with the deceased individual.
Grief can impact job performance, compromising safety due to changes in sleep, concentration, and mood. Line managers must understand their employees’ situations to prioritise safety and welfare. For instance, impaired sleep may render an individual unsafe to operate machinery or drive at work. Incorporating Health and Safety Assessments and reasonable workplace adjustments into the bereavement policy can address these concerns.
^^^ A study of 2,000 individuals (commissioned by CPJ Field) revealed that grieving employees are not being supported at work, both immediately following a death and in the weeks beforehand.
Free PDF Guide: How to Support Your Grieving Employee
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Build confidence in supporting grief at work
For organisations looking to go further, our workplace bereavement training helps managers, HR teams, Mental Health First Aiders, and teams build the confidence and skills needed to support grieving employees with compassion and understanding.
Our sessions combine:
🧠 Evidence-informed grief knowledge
💬 Practical guidance for workplace conversations
🤝 Tools for supporting employees and colleagues
🌱 Strategies for creating more grief-aware workplace cultures
Training and support areas include:
🏫 Bereavement training for schools
🏢 Workplace bereavement training
🤍 Bereavement training for social workers
Frequently asked workplace grief questions
There is no single “right” amount of time for bereavement leave. The impact of a loss varies depending on the person, their relationship with the person who died, the circumstances of the death, and the support available.
Some people may need a short period away from work to manage practical arrangements and the initial shock of loss. Others may need more time, flexibility, or support when they return.
A compassionate workplace recognises that grief does not end when bereavement leave ends and that returning to work may require ongoing understanding.
Employers should avoid assuming that someone is ready to return simply because a set amount of leave has passed.
Returning to work after a loss is a personal process, and some employees may need adjustments or a phased return. A supportive approach usually involves open conversations about what the person feels able to manage.
Helpful steps can include:
agreeing realistic expectations
discussing workload
offering flexibility where possible
arranging regular check-ins
The aim is not to remove grief, but to help someone feel supported while they adjust.
👉 Explore: Navigating Bereavement Leave: A Guide for UK Employers
Grief does not follow a deadline. It is common for grief to continue long after the initial period following a death, and many people experience difficult moments months or even years later.
A person may struggle more around:
anniversaries
birthdays or significant dates
major life changes
reminders of the person who died
Employers can support employees by continuing compassionate conversations and recognising that grief may still affect wellbeing and work.
If someone’s grief feels overwhelming or is significantly affecting daily life, it may be helpful to encourage them to seek additional support.
👉 Explore: Understanding grief models
Grief itself is not an illness, but it can affect someone’s physical and emotional wellbeing.
People experiencing grief may notice:
difficulty concentrating
changes in sleep
fatigue
anxiety
low mood
feeling overwhelmed
These responses are common after a significant loss. However, if someone’s symptoms become severe, persistent, or are affecting their ability to function, they may benefit from additional professional support.
A workplace response should focus on understanding the person’s experience rather than automatically viewing grief as a performance issue.



